I do feel super lusty after this whole experience and every time, I feel like the 1st time minus the newness and uncertainty. I wish I had of been a bit stronger or stuck to my guns when things were getting a bit sketchy maybe I could have avoided some of the hurt and anguish. I found out and she pulled the same open marriage request theme. She says over and over that she loves me and it had nothing to do with me. So beware — my life became a total nightmare with no end in sight.
She says she has been doing a lot of reading about it and has a work friend who is in an open relationship and it works for her. Now, look closely at her retaliation screw job. That must be challenging especially because these men out here today have no respect for the ring and they have no problem trying to sleep with mine. So far everything is working out just fine but I fear something so beautiful might not last. The first two cheated on me. She deliberately lied to me to see this guy—a handsome, big doctor. This fundamental requirement for marriage is Truth.
And we never exchanged phone numbers with whomever we were meeting with—we used the apps Kik or Vibr instead. Initially, he told me that was his main fantasy, to see me turned on, I am a key component. The idea of being with another man sounded so exciting. Even the religions that say they support modern departure from traditional family relationships still mandate strict adherence to whatever form of departure they happen to support, no acceptations allowed. This event seemed to reinforce for us that our commitment to each other transcends the physical. Another thing I realised is that I was so connected to and in love with my wife, that I sacrificed my values and needs for her happiness… as I unknowingly over time had made her my only source of happiness and lost who I was along the way.
Disappointing someone is better than living with regret. I sense your torn up inside and might be feeling like you betrayed your husband for having stronger feelings then intended. Destroying family and home instead of making them better is like junking a good race car just because the starter failed. We decided not to pursue a third sue to being scared of stds, but an old trusted bf might be the ticket. You also need to do what is right for and what feels right for you without compromise. Feel good, great orgasm sex. With an open marriage you increase the odds of a problem because both of you are having sex with others.
I have just gone through 5 years of hell after discovering my wife had already lived out her fantasy of having another man. Tell each other your biggest secrets, your deepest fears, have a super solid connection! Both of my marriage experiences where built on jealousy, and the more I discover about jealousy the more I see how it damages relationships, sex, and marriages. I've scrolled through my husband's phone before, and seeing the conversations he's had with another woman can be hard to handle. Let yourself be loved by any and all really honest, caring ladies who will share honorable friendship with you, and make no coverup about it with your wife. Is there a part of her she wants to let out but is afraid? She would act on them but would only do so with your permission. You said your husband gave you the green light though so if that's what he said he can't really blame you, although It might have been a more begrudging reluctance and him finally caving in, I dont know his side of the story.
You start to wonder why not leave your spouse? This is the reason for my opening example of a group of lovers sharing their beautiful love making together because each spouse desires their life mate to experience the joys of being fully loved. I think based on your conversation it all starts with honesty ~ scary 100% honesty. You and everyone who agrees with you is right and all others are wrong. You want to read her texts… look at her facebook… or she you. A few months in, on my business trip to Jamaica, I decided there was no better place to give this thing a whirl. My experience, and Maria's own two months later, caused us to see each other and our relationship in a new, more adventurous light. She was married to a man for ten years and has three amazing boys.
Sex produced Oxytocin which is a hormone that emotionally bonds a couple together. After much hurt and disappointment on both sides, as it was clear I was not as secure in myself as I thought. It is about wanting sex with others plain and simple and yet people try to dress it up by using fancy titles for it. Basically, I have spoken at length with my partner regarding his reasons etc. I want him to be happy. First time in 32 years outside our marriage for both… so we were very nervous but he calmed us right down. Not 12 years into it because it sounds exciting.
Well, we met in a club like many did back in the day and evolved into this relationship over 32 years. She gave herself sexually to many, many men, starting with fellow skiers on local slopes. This is not something one should take lightly. I have asked her if its something that is missing in our relationship and she says no. Is there any hope for pulling this marriage back together? Actually, by the words you share all over the place here, it is clear that your heart suffers under a burden of defeated expectations that are inflexible, and self-centered. You are very wise to approach this with caution, this is definitely something that needs to be discussed honestly and thoroughly.