We were supposed to be done with 2, 1 girl, 1 boy. The thing is he keeps saying that I'm so violent and abusive. The constant negativity, nagging, criticism, cheating, lying and drug abuse started to break me down. I never had a happy childhood, and my adulthood has been a mess, lack of friends, loneliness, severe health conditions and not being able to function all the time, yet I always strive to do things and be busy instead of sleeping and doing nothing. When I mention a cruel joke or comment that I didn't like he turns it all around on me, that I am crazy.
They have told me at times he has told them not to tell me what's 'discussed ' at home when I'm not their as if they do they will be causing a fight. Im a 16 year old highschool junior,student athlete,I try to be optimistic about majority of things,and it seems to fail everytime. Swollen lymphs that size are no joking matter. I know some people still debate whether depression is passed down genetically or not, but I feel I have enough evidence to warrant the assumption that it is. If you are willing to work together with your spouse to figure out a way to fix your problems your marriage can be saved. I too, was one who put everyone and everything first.
I get mad at little things that my kids and husband do that didn't bother me at all in the past. It sounds like this relationship makes you insecure. Men, who are not treated to these biologically produced chemical cocktails tend to be more indifferent to the needs of others. Everything here struck a chord with how I feel. Having fully realized my spiritual ambitions, she knew she could wage a full out verbal assault. So I muddle through, just like so many others.
What you said about your life, your children, being tired. Again I am sorry if I am bugging anyone. One thing I have started doing for myself this year is working out. She knew I would no longer retaliate, so she was free to slowly and painfully exact her revenge. It is One Step that woke me up from a false sad, unmotivated self to an enlightened, ready, willing self. However anxiety is a very real medical condition - there's a difference between worry and anxiety. I almost lost my battle to depression and through therapy I found out what my issues were.
This is not healthy even for them, never mind those that are around them. There are just these weird times where I want to curl up in a ball, have someone take on the responsibilities and take care of me and everything else. Unfortunately, the psychological tools available at the time were pretty meager and insufficient. I also have similar worries to you at the moment, but I know that there is help out there. My kids are my life, without them I have no reason to live. But what i do find helpful is prayer and reading some inspiring Christian books from people who have gone through that path.
Remember you are a strong person and good mother because you carry on through all of the difficulties that life thows at you. . The hard blows of the last five years have killed a lot of good in me. Going through something similar myself. Oldest of 4 children with a depressing mom.
Well i love him but i hate him. I feel like i wrote most of these posts myself! I just keep on reminding myself that I work hard and that I need to allow time for myself and that that is really important. I come home so exhausted and sad and empty. Especially since my shades make the room dark! I now teach this process as part of my larger step-by-step marriage-saving system. And, I find that I have put aside my desires for years because of my sense of duty to others. So thank you and know that, as others have said, there are a lot of us out there who feel like you do, and we care even in our own sadness. I won't ever understand how a man can treat his family like this and not want help to stop it.
Your child may be pushing your buttons, but he isn't causing your response. He works as a car sales agent. Divorce, financial difficulties, a problem child, the list goes on and on. All was fine and dandy for a couple of years, but then things started changing. I keep asking him why he even stays with me.
I used to be a happy person, but ever since my second child was born, my life took a downturn. It hurts knowing that just as much as it hurts when someone degraded you. I chased and chased and always managed to calm the situation, even though i was angry. Nothing I could do was ever good enough. My one amazing talent in life is drawing and creating things, and it feels like a totally useless talent because of how saturated the industry seems now. I feel distant and lonely most of the time.